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++ Gossip Is EATING THE FLESH OF YOUR SISTERS!

"...Nor speak ill of eachother behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother/sister? Nay, you would abhor it. But fear Allah" (Qu'ran 49: 12). Watch this vid (link given) for desired effect girls!: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m1aj2C7XQh4 before reading on.

Someone in my community has been gossiping about a sister I love who I know keeps secrets and never tries to talk about another sis's buisiness. Do you know what gossiping is?:

"Do you know what gossip is?" They said, "Allah and His Messenger know best." He said, "It is your saying about your brother something which he dislikes." He was asked, "What do you think if I say about my brother it true?" He said, "If it is true then you have gossiped about him, and if it is not true then you have slandered him." (Muslim). "Those who love [to see] scandal published and broadcast among the Believers, will have a grievous penalty in this life and in the Hereafter..." (Qu'ran 24:19). And 'Ali ibn Abi Taalib reports: "The one who gives his tongue free rein in spreading scandal in the commnity is as great a sinner as the one who commits a scandalous act."

Not that she HAS done anything wrong! An issue got confused and another sis got caught gossiping about something she had no buisiness in (Islam is a religion of advice, if someone does something you think is wrong it is your duty to gently inform them of it, not go spreading it about the community-astifurallah!).
Now, my poor friend, she has been accused of gossiping, and of lying, and as these things are not true, I know she has been slandered by a hypocrite. "You will find among the worst people in the sight of Allah on the Day of Resurrection, the one who is two-faced, who approaches some people in one way and others in another." (Bukhari, Muslim, et al). "The Muslim is one from whose tongue and hand other Muslims are safe. (Bukhari). We are told to protect eachother from sin, not by shaming them "The whole of a Muslim's being is sacred to another Muslim-his blood, his wealth and his honour are inviolable." (Muslim). In fact, we are told that along with advising eachother (loving eachother for the sake of Allah as this sister has done for me numerous times while still keeping my good name) we are to be REWARDED for covering eachother's FAULTS. "No man conceals the sin of another in this world, but Allah will cover him on the Day of Resurrection." (Muslim). "Whoever sees a Muslim's fault and covers it up, it will be as if he brought back to life a baby girl who had been buried alive." (Ibid). C'mon sisters! "...And spy not on one another..." (Qu'ran 49:12). Slander and accusations destroy the integrity of the Umah which is why adultery, which has such a high price in its punishment, is worthy of death (it causes suspicion and gossip and destroy bonds of brotherhood and family ties in the way that gossip and slander does!). This issue makes me so sick, because not only has this sister been accused of lying, she is not being told what she lied about so that she can defend herself, nor who has made the faceless accusations. I'll give you a riddle.

I have no eyes but I see things that never were. I have no hands but I can slay and kill and maim and do. I have no legs, but I am carried everywhere. I am Gossip. Yes, you know my name.

Alhamdulilah, my friend has a temper, but I think she's managed herself very well, and is willing to forgive the party responsible, but she wants her name cleared. Whoever is responsible, reading this, will you help her, or at least, if you still see soemthing wrong, maybe advise her, and next time, instead of insultering her and damaging my community, come to her first with that advice as you are commanded to in your religion by our holy Qu'ran? I'd hate to see you have to defend yourself with this in Shariah cuz I know you need at least two in-body wittnesses to even accuse her of gossiping. And everyone, please know, if you're are going to gossip ABOUT someone gossiping because you have nothing better to do, you are a hypocrite, and a slanderer, and a gossip yourself. Advise, and cover your brothers and sisters, or else feast on their flesh and enjoy. Bon apetit liar.

AND DEAR SISTER, MY ADVICE TO YOU:
"Whatever two people who are insulting each other say, it is a sin on the one who started it, unless the one who was wronged steps beyond the bounds of self-defence." (Muslim).

source:BeautifulMuslimah

++ Beauty Tips..

1.)For attractive lips speak words of kindness.

2.) For attactive eyes seek out the good in people.

3.) For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

4.)For beautiful hair let a child run his/her fingers through it once a day.

5.) For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

6.) People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed... never throw out anyone.

7.) Remember, if you ever need a helping hand you will find one at the end of each of your arms.

8.) As you grow older you will discover you have two hands, one for helping yourself, and one for helping others.

Wisdom is wisdom, and it is duty upon us to keep learning, and walk with the poise of our religion, and in the knowledge, that none of us, are ever alone.

++ Bengkoknya Wanita

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"Leceh betullah orang perempuan ni. Tegur sikit dah merajuk. Kena pujuk, nasihat lembut-lembut, cakap baik-baik... hai leceh betul. Tetapi kalau dibiarkan menjadi-jadi pulak! Kita punya kerja pun dia nak langgar. Buat kerja ikut semangat, tak pandang kiri kanan lagi."

"Eh, apa yang kau ngomelkan ni Fuad? Siapa yang buat hal kali ni?"

"Staff aku si Lina tu lah. Baru tegur sikit, dah monyok. Hari ni dah tak datang kerja. Susahlah macam ni. Kerja pejabat akan terganggu."

"Entah-entah dia ada hal lain. Engkau belum siasat dah jump to conclusion."

"Alaah... orang perempuan memang macam tu. Kan Nabi pun kata yang orang perempuan tu ibarat tulang rusuk yang bengkok*? Sebab dia bengkoklah orang perempuan suka buat perangai. Kita nak luruskan nanti patah pulak. Kalau dibiarkan terus, makin bengkoklah. Hai susah, susah."

"Jangan cakap macam tu, Fuad. Maksud Hadis tu bukan begitu."

"Eh, kan Hadis itu sudah lumrah diperkatakan? Apa yang tak kena pulak, Naim?"

"Maksud aku begini. Menafsirkan Hadis itu seolah-olah orang perempuan tu memang Allah ciptakan sebagai satu golongan yang "disadvantaged" atau terkurang seperti yang engkau cakapkan seolah-olah mengatakan yang Allah itu berat sebelah. Walhal Allah itu Maha Adil dan Dia ciptakan lelaki dan perempuan itu sama sahaja dari segi kemampuan mereka untuk meningkatkan iman dan menjadi hamba Allah yang bertaqwa. Bengkok yang disebut di dalam Hadis itu bukan bermakna yang mereka itu sentiasa cenderung ke arah melakukan perkara-perkara yang tidak baik."

"Buktinya, apabila Rasulullah s.a.w. datang membawa ajaran Islam, baginda menaikkan taraf perempuan yang sebelum itu dianggap "golongan yang tak berguna" kepada "sayap kiri" kepada masyarakat. Beliau ada memberikan tugas-tugas yang penting kepada orang perempuan, terutama bila kaum lelaki keluar berperang. Sebagai sayap kiri, tentulah mereka diiktiraf seimbang dengan sayap kanan."

"Tapi, memang orang perempuan kuat merajuk. Jenuh kita nak layan dia."

"Merajuk bukan berlaku pada orang perempuan saja. Orang lelaki juga kuat merajuk. Mungkin cara merajuk atau cara `protes` tu yang tak sama. Punca merajuk sebab iman lemah, bukan sebab jantina. "Lagipun, apa salahnya kalau kita tegur orang perempuan dengan berlemah-lembut dan berhikmah. Bukankah begitu tuntutan Islam. Kalau kita marah-marah sehingga mereka merajuk, bukan mereka yang salah, tetapi kitalah yang salah. Entah-entah waktu itu kita lebih`bengkok` daripada mereka!"

"Eh, eh engkau ni. Asyik nak bela orang perempuan aje."


"Aku bukannya nak bela siapa-siapa. Aku cuma nak betulkan pemahaman yang tidak betul terhadap Hadis tu."

"Apa maksud sebenar Hadis tu?"

"Orang perempun yang diibaratkan seperti tulang rusuk yang bengkok itu bukan bermakna satu kekurangan, tapi sebenarnya adalah satu "penyempurnaan" . Sepertimana juga usus manusia yang berlipat-lipat dan berlingkaran itu bukanlah satu ketidakbetulan tetapi begitulah keadaan usus yang sempurna. Bengkoknya tulang rusuk itu kerana ia bersifat `pelindung`. Ia melindungi organ-organ penting di dalam tubuh manusia seperti jantung, paru-paru, hati dan limpa. Kalau tulang kakilah yang diletakkan di dada manusia, sudah tentu ia tidak dapat berperanan sepertimana tulang rusuk yang bengkok itu."

"Oh begitu. Jadi bila Nabi katakan yang orang perempuan itu seperti tulang rusuk yang bengkok, beliau hanyalah hendak memperlihatkan perbezaan peranan mereka berbanding lelaki?"

"Begitulah. Selain itu, maksud `tulang rusuk yang bengkok` itu ialah sifat `rahmah`. Orang perempuan itu sifat semulajadinya penyayang. Perasaannya halus. Kerana adanya sifat-sifat itu, orang perempuan boleh sabar menjaga dan melayan anak-anaknya yang berbagai kerenah. Mereka juga sabar dan tekun melakukan kerja-kerja rumah yang mungkin kepada kita sangat membosankan. "

"Begitu jugalah di dalam masyarakat, orang perempuan sangat sesuai menjadi guru, jururawat, dan apa juga bidang yang dalam kemampuannya. Oleh itu jangan cuba buang sifat "bengkok" ini daripada orang perempuan dengan memberikan mereka tugas-tugas yang tidak sesuai. Kalau tulang rusuk sudah patah, organ-organ yang penting tadi tidak akan selamat."

"Jadi peranan mereka sebenarnya penting. Bayangkanlah betapa besar peranan dan jasa ibu yang menjaga dan mengasuh kita dari kecil hinggalah besar."

"Hmm, betul tu Naim."

"Sebenarnya tiada siapa yang `bengkok` mengikut tafsiran yang engkau gunakan. Bengkok atau tidaknya seorang lelaki atau perempuan itu bergantung kepada iman dan akhlaknya. Orang lelaki kalau tidak berusaha untuk membuang sifat-sifat yang terkeji di dalam dirinya pun akan jadi bengkok juga, malah lebih bengkok dari orang perempuan yang ada usaha membaiki dirinya."


"Baru aku sedar, akulah yang bengkok. Asyik marah-marah dan tidak sabar."

"Memang tidak sepatutnya kita lihat orang lain itu lebih `bengkok` daripada kita. Sebaliknya kita patut sentiasa merasakan yang kitalah yang lebih `bengkok` daripada semua orang lain di muka bumi ini... "

*Sesiapa yang beriman dengan Allah dan Hari Akhirat, maka janganlah menyakiti jirannya dan hendaklah dia menjaga wanita dengan sebaik-baiknya kerana sesungguhnya mereka diciptakan daripada tulang rusuk. Sesungguhnya tulang rusuk yang paling bengkok ialah yang paling atas, jika kamu berusaha untuk membetulkannya kamu akan mematahkannya, jika kamu terus biarkan begitu ia akan terus bengkok. Oleh itu terimalah pesanan supaya menjaga wanita-wanita dengan baik.

(Hadis riwayat al-Bukhari no: 4890)